Sunday, May 21, 2017

On Complaining

At church this morning the series is "choose joy" and each week we talk about how to Choose Joy in our lives.  Now I know not everyone is Christian so I promise this won't be super preachy and the point of this post is universal.  Just hang in there.  The sermon this morning was about how to give up complaining in exchange for rejoicing (i.e. being thankful and finding the good in each situation).

The pastor pointed to Philippians 2:14 which says "do everything without complaining and arguing." UM guys, seriously, EVERYTHING?  That is one tall order.  When he first said that I was like no, he can't mean that.  That's impossible.  What about when people are driving so badly?! What about when I am SO tired?!  What about those days when my kids turn into mutant monsters!?  Yup guys, everything, all the time, every day.

Once I got over my initial shock, I thought about how life-changing this could be.  We all get on social media and complain.  That just makes other people feel like complaining too.  What if we talked about our blessing and how lucky we are?  How would our marriages and relationships change if we didn't roll our eyes, argue, or complain about who is more tired, who had a harder day, who did the dishes the last 3 times, etc.?  I don't know because I don't do it, but man I think mine sure would change a lot.

I'm sure I won't succeed all of the time.  I'm sure I won't even notice I'm even complaining some of the time, but I REALLY want to try to stop complaining and try to shift the way I look at, you guessed it, EVERYTHING.

If you're feeling bogged down, ready for summer, like your boss/husband/work/kids/family/friends/whatever are driving you nuts, give it a try.  Change the way you think and see if it changes your life.  You don't have to be Christian to be more positive.  If you are Christian, all the more reason.  God calls us to do it.  If that isn't a good reason to try, I'm not sure what is.

This family of mine is the second reason I am going to try.  I have a sneaking suspicion the reason God calls us to try is for them anyways ;)

Wednesday, May 10, 2017


With Mother's Day coming up this weekend, I have been thinking a lot about "mom-ing."  Man, this is one HARD job.  I survived law school and the California Bar Exam with significantly more grace than I've done this mom gig.  The biggest lesson I've learned is that I am super selfish and impatient. I have been working super hard at being more patient, thinking more about serving my family and thinking less about what I want.  Let me tell you, it ain't easy giving up 30 years of habits though.

Now I know everyone needs their own time and stuff.  I do play tennis weekly and take occasional childless trips.  That being said, on the day-to-day, I live for my family.  Between working full time, shuttling kids around, laundry, cooking, cleaning, bills, pets, other commitments/appointments, we have NO free time.  This has been a HUGE adjustment for me.

I really admire and envy those moms who are so in the moment with their kids and handle the stress with calm and patience.  I am so not that mom.  I get angry, anxious, worked up, etc.  What's hard is that before I had kids, I really thought I would handle it with ease and grace.  Haha boy did God get me on that one!  Talk about humbling.  Luckily, He did bless me with two beautiful, healthy, smart, funny amazing kids.

I have noticed that since I stopped being bitter about it and stopped trying to find ways to do what I want with my kids, I have enjoyed them more, become closer with them and overall been much happier.  Everyone talks about being in the moment and it sounds so hippie/cliche to me, but it really is true.  When I am with them, I just have to accept that I cannot be working or whatever and enjoy being with them.

Only took me two years to figure out, but at least I made it right?  I'm sure I'll continue to struggle with this and learn plenty more lessons the hard way, but I guess that is how we become better people and stuff, right?!

Thursday, January 19, 2017


I have always wanted to see Yosemite in winter so Michael planned a trip to make that happen.  We made a few other stops.  We stayed in tiny historic towns in the Sierras and just made our way around stopping anywhere that seemed cool.  It was such a fun trip and exactly what we needed.

We had snowball fights, hiked around, made snow angels, played, saw two bucks (deer), ate great meals.  It was just so fun!

We saw this full rainbow on the drive up and took it as a sign that we would have a good trip.  It was right!

Stopped at Pea  Soup Anderson's for some soup for lunch.  This is becoming a bit of a tradition of ours, as this was the third time!

We were supposed to stay in the town of Volcano, but the hotel we were booked in flooded with the rain and shut down.  We didn't find out until we were on our way there and I started to panic.  They booked us in their "sister" hotel Rest in Plymouth and it ended up being amazing.  The hotel was so beyond nice and the staff was amazing.  The restaurant Taste next door was one of the best dinners I have ever had.  We loved it so much we are definitely going to go back.  iI all worked out!

I had the salmon

Michael had the filet mignon special

We left Plymouth and drove down to Mariposa where we were going to be staying the next two nights.  On the way we drove through tons of tiny towns and even stopped at a sausage market and bought a TON of delicious sausage, salami, bacon and jerky!

Mariposa is the last town on the way into Yosemite.  It is super cute and has the oldest courthouse out West and it is still in operation.  This was super cool to me as a lawyer.

It is about an hour drive from Mariposa to Yosemite.  It was such a pretty drive though.  The roads had been closed a couple days earlier due to flooding from the rains and snow, but we got lucky and had beautiful weather.

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